THE BEAUTY OF SEX

A. Introduction:

In considering the Beauty of sex, let us first examine the term Beauty.

A dictionary defines Beauty as a quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses.

In other words, Beauty is the perception that someone or something is 

- good to behold 

- good to hold 

- good to have 

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How people perceive beauty differ hence the popular saying “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. Wether someone or something is judged beautiful is determined by the one who is considering it.

There is also the possibility of someone or something to be beautiful for nothing.

All that glitter is not gold. Beautiful things may not necessarily bring good.

Deriving maximum value/ pleasure or satisfaction from a creation depends largely on the guide provided by the creator so that it will not be beautiful for nothing. 

The creator of everything knows what purpose it is to serve and how best it can serve it. When the mind of the creator is not known the creation is assaulted

B. Sex

Sex is a creation of God. Only God know how to derive its maximum value or how best it can be enjoyed. The beauty of sex therefore lies in discovering God’s purpose for creating sex and following His guidelines for experiencing it.

God's purpose for sex

1. For intimacy  Gen 2:24,1 Cor 7:3-5

2. For procreation Gen 4:1

3. For pleasure Gen 26:8

4. For emotional control Gen 38:1-20, 1 Cor 7:2&9

5. As an expression of love. 

Sex Boundaries

1. Adultery 

Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not their spouse Exodus 20:14.

2. Fornication is a consensual sexual intercourse between a man and a especially single woman who are not married to each other.1 Cor 6:9-10

3. Incorrect sexual practices Lev 20:10-21

C. : Five facts you should know about sex.

1. Sex is a creation of God, enjoyable, endurable and rewarding.

2. Except for health challenges every man and every woman, young and old have sexual desires. 

3. Sex is allowed only in marriage.

4. Sex is correct only between one man and one woman who are not related by blood .

5. Sexual urge can be controlled. 1 Thess 4:4, Gen 39:7-9

D. Implications of illicit sex 

2  Sam. 13 :1- 17

1. It is sin against God

2. It brings feeling of guilt 

3. It comes with the risk of contacting diseases.

4. It is degradation from human standard 

5. Bad label (betrayal) 

6. It makes one become accursed 

7. It brings great loss Gen 38, 2 Sam 11 &12, Prov. 5:1-12

Part C : The beauty of godly sex. 

An experience between a man and a woman who are legally married.

1. Peace 

2. Joy

3. Fullness of pleasure 

4. Divine blessings 

5. Unending pleasure 

The challenge : 

-Resist like Joseph Gen 39: 1-17, 

-Control your desire 1 Cor 9: 27, 

- Guard your testimony 1Tim 4:12 , 

- Flee youthful lust 2 Tim 2:22

E. A couple may not know the beauty of sex if they don’t learn about it

Let’s share some facts about the beauty of sex

a) sex partners apart from being couples should be lovers consider the other partner first, give gifts

b) they should both learn about sex and freely share their feelings about it.

c) the greatest instrument for sex is the mind.

d) make it fun

e) teach your partner about your peculiarities and reach reasonable compromises. 

F. Conclusion 1 Thes 4:1-7

© Rev'd Dr Emmanuel Adewale Àjàyí

 Guest Minister atFirst Baptist Church Mowe || Annual Valentine Program: First Love Conference